Blogpost 6: Rejection

Rejection is a part of life, and dealing with rejection successfully is a valuable skill set which could mean the difference between failure and high achievement in life. Under any circumstance, rejection should never be taken personally. When we are rejected, we feel not only halted, but pushed back in the opposite direction of which we were headed. This indicates how we feel about the part we play in rejection. 

On the road to healing we first have to deal with the truth about how we really feel about why we were rejected and the person who rejected us. How do we feel about the rejection we experienced? Most of all how we really feel about ourselves? Hurt and pain describe mental suffering as well as physical suffering, leading us to wonder if the sensations weren't activating the same parts of the brain. From everyday experience, rejection seems to be one of the most painful things we experience, It seems the feelings of rejection can be sustained even longer than being punch. 


I found an article entitled "Rejection Really Hurts" by Kipling D. William in the website "sciencedaily". At first glance, this article caught my attention because it is a strange perception of the topic to me.


This article explain the true meaning of being rejected, most people have experienced rejection at one point or another. Whether from an unrequited love, getting fired from a job, or outcast from a friend group, experiencing rejection may elicit an almost corporeal pain. That reaction is actually extremely normal; emotional and physical pain are actually intricately connected, especially in the case of social rejection. Think what was it that made the relationship a failure. Examine what you want with your partner and what are the things, which you are willing to give. Be realistic and you would soon find the love of your life. 

This article explained that because of rejection we are not only hurt physically but also emotionally, rejection is distinct from other negative emotions it because of the magnitude of the pain the feeling emits to our body that can contribute negative or positive emotions that feeling rejected by others. In fact, rejected love is essentially what people refer to as the pain of a broken heart. It shown to the article that rejection can be hurt in many forms like heartbreak that can actually elicit physical pain and emotional pain. Because for me rejection is such a strong emotion that can affect the body and actually registers the sensation through a physical pain.




Another article entitled "Why the Pain of Romantic Rejection Feels Like a Punch in the Gut" by Alice park in the website "healthland.time". 

The article talks about pain that could have implications for understanding why feelings related to romantic rejection can be hard to control, and may provide insight into extreme behaviors associated with rejection that feels like a punch in gut. We all known every one of us feel this pain this occasion gives you time to introspect. Therefore pain of romantic rejection is considered to be feels like a punch in the gut, because the pain you might feel is like hurting yourself. In my opinion, pain from any relationship serves as a reminder to treat those we love well so we can avoid that 'slammed in the chest' feeling...which is probably why it hurts more if you're taken by surprise by an abrupt end in comparison to a relationship that ends after a long tenure of misery on both sides.



We view ourselves as passive, as being the victim of an action, as inactive, as non-participative. When faced with unexpected rejection, it’s found that feeling that you are not liked results in our heart rate actually slowing down, an activity of the parasympathetic nervous system. Thus, feeling rejected results in you reacting both psychologically and physically. Mending broken hearts is never an easy job, when it hurts, it hurts like hell, no matter which gender you are. 

Therefore this two remind us how rejection affect the whole part of our body that can be physically, mentally or even emotionally that can be hurt us feels like a punch in the gut. I know being rejected is not a easy problem but we don’t need to blame our self and blame the person who rejected you. Most people have experienced rejection at one point or another. Whether from an unrequited love, getting fired from a job, or outcast from a friend group, experiencing rejection may elicit an almost corporeal pain. That reaction is actually extremely normal.